Blessings on blessings

I realize its been forever since I've blogged, oops....

So i made a Youtube video not too long ago (peep it here: https://youtu.be/HONvO3J9Tu8) about being single in summer aka wedding season. I've been single a long time but it definitely makes me more aware when you see friends and people around you having amazing beautiful weddings.

Don't get me wrong I'm definitely happy for my friends! May Allah bless your marriage and union if you are married or about to be!

But shoutout to my peoples that are still being independent and strong on their own!

Patience is something we all must practice especially when we see others go through a blessing we want or experience opportunities we have been seeking. I realize that when the time is right I will get married to the right person but to not sweat it, I still have goals I want to accomplish.

Being single I have so much more freedom to do what I want and not worry as much about someone else and their wants, needs and care.

If you're single, look at it as a chance to better yourself as a person, as a Muslim, as a family member and friend as someone who volunteers. Advance yourself in your career! Travel and do things that will be hard to do once you're married and with kids.

Before you get offended, I definitely realize that all the things I mentioned above CAN be done even after you're married but I think there is definitely more difficulty because now you are a wife or husband and have mores responsibilities caring for someone else.

And Maybe some of you are used to already caring for your parents or siblings and always being surrounded by people and having the freedom to do things you wish. So maybe once you're married not much will change.

For me personally there's a lot of growing up I think I need to do, yes I live on my own and work and pay my bills but my personality needs a little work in terms of my patience and not getting so upset easily. I need to work on and better my relationship with Allah Subhana Wa Tala, I want to have built and created a consistent relationship with Allah first because its so easy to say you'll change or improve later but never get to it even after marriage.

I want to have gotten my drivers license (ugh I've been trying to work on that forever) and get myself car so I dint have to be independent on uber. lyft and friends or family driving me places.

I want to have traveled to more states in the U.S and maybe even outside!

I want to have graduated college with my education degree and have a stable teaching job with money saved up.

my goals in general are so that I can do things for myself even after being married so I'm not reliant on my spouse or anyone else. I have seen so many negative relationships in my family so I'm sort of afraid of commitment and a marriage ending badly. 

But anyways another reason for the post, is to remind myself and others that even if you haven't had the blessing of being married or having found a partner, that God still blesses us in other ways.

I am not one to brag but I think sometimes everyone deserves to be recognized for their hard work and the accomplishments they make.

Recently was awarded a $3,000 scholarship Alhumdilah!! It's funny because last year I applied to this scholarship and I either procrastinated (AHA not new for me I always do that) or something prevented me from filling out the application. This year I managed to complete it but in my head I told myself the competition for the scholarship was high and I most likely wouldn't get it. Even when I went to the interview for the scholarship I didn't want to get my hopes up so I still said well theres a big chance it won't happen.

Im rambling on and on now but I just want for anyone who's single and struggling with being single to understand and know you have many other things going for you. Love who you are now and keep doing what you do, someone will see you shine and put that ring on that finger In Sha Allah ;)