KNOW YOUR WORTH

KNOW YOUR WORTH 

have you ever gone through a breakup and your girlfriends tell you things like this :

You can do so much better !

You don’t need a man! 

Girl  focus on yourself! 

Which is easier sad than done , when you are broken and upset and lonely often you want to fill that loniliness by finding someone else . But it’s healthier to be alone than to be in a relationship where you’re unhappy , and it’s not to say you can’t had unhappy moments but it shouldn’t be a constant thing . 

But it can be especially harmful if you do not give yourself time to heal , to understand what went wrong in your last relationship and what did you learn about yourself and what can you do better . 

I’ve had friends say well I just wasted months or years or weeks of my life with this person , I blame myself for staying with them when I knew they weren’t right for me . 

Reflecting on what wrong gives you the perspective of okay this person wasn’t Eid for me for such and such reason , or I had expectations / standards this person didn’t meet and that’s okay , now I know not to settle for anything less than what I deserve .

Even myself it happens where I settle for someone because I have this fairytale in my head that the person can change and that somehow the cosmos will align and I’ll be able to make it work even if there’s things missing that I want in the relationship or in the person themselves.

But you shouldn’t settle for something you’re not happy with , if there’s red flags in the beginning stages of getting to know someone or if there’s things you see that you don’t like or you know you can’t live with , then it’s okay to say hey I don’t think we are right for each other .

It saves you both the time and feelings of getting attached when you know it’s not headed into a healthy direction .

It’s also very very important to decide on your goals too , even if you get into a relationship let this person know , these are my goals these are things that I want to accomplish and DO NOT be afraid to tell them hey if you can’t support me or encourage and help me on this journey to my goals then we can’t be together.

There’s nothing wrong with having a period of time to figure things out , I think it’s more healthy then jumping right back into another relationship before you truly understand who you are and to be loving and caring for yourself . Taking care of you is very important and getting into a relationship when you aren’t taking are of your health and happiness can be dangerous .

Don’t blame yourself if a relationship doesn’t work out , you don’t waste time you only learned more about yourself and you become stronger once you realize hey this is what I’m looking for next time .

Realize that you are a beautiful individual whether you are in a relationship or not . And you shouldn’t need a partner to make you happy .